Is it worth having the REGRET of not being happy?

Recently one of my Facebook connections shared this link where a palliative nurse recorded the top five regrets of the dying. When I read it, it made me realize that this is why I do what I do! This is why I am a Happiness Coach & a Motivational Speaker.  I want to have a profound positive impact on the quality of people's lives while they are still on this earth so that they have no regrets (or at least few regrets) when that time comes.   My motto ... live with no regrets!  Just learn from the events in your life that didn't quite go as planned and make better decisions in the present moment, so that your future is impacted in a positive way!

Regrets don't feel good, so from a Law of Attraction standpoint, that's not a good thing.  If it doesn't feel good and you continue to feel it, you will continue to attract more things into your life that will not feel good! Makes sense, right?

Many people tell me that they work so hard with little to no rewards or that they are living their life based on what others expect them to do or be, but not what their heart and soul is telling them to do.

I also have people tell me that they are not truly expressing their feelings - that they are "holding back" what they really feel?

Do any of these things sound like YOU?

Please take a moment right now to decide, really decide, that your happiness is the most important thing - that being happy and following your heart's desires will positively impact every single area of your life.  And best part, if you decide this right now, you are paving the way for a more joyous future, one in which you won't have regrets, you will just feel blessed that you are living the life your heart and soul wants you to.

And if you already have regrets, you must make a choice right now to leave those things in the past. Don't keep on bringing the past into your NOW and making it relevant.  Ok, you feel like you have made some mistakes.  So what?  Have you learned from them?  Are you using what you learned to make a better future?  That's the most important thing.  That's the only thing that should be the takeaway from past mistakes.  And here's a re-frame that I am sure you have already heard:  It's not a mistake, it's a lesson.  And you can leverage that lesson to your advantage for your future!

The key to living a life filled with joy instead of regrets is to live in the present moment and appreciate every morsel of your life that is a blessing.  You know which aspects of your life this entails ... the ones that put a smile on your face each and every day.  There are blessings and positive aspects of our lives that we often neglect to give attention to.  Why?  Because we are too focused on what is NOT working in our lives.  We are too focused on what we lack, what we don't have yet.  But that is not going to make you happy.  It's just going to keep you feeling stuck.  Is that what you want?

If you feel you are working too hard, re-evaluate your situation.  Start including some "me time".
And don't tell me that you can't do that.  You can.  You are just choosing to tell yourself a story that you can't do it.  But, what's more important - the quality of your life and how happy you are in any given moment OR how much you work and work really hard?  What's going to matter on that last day you are here on this earth?

If you are living your life for someone else, doing things that they want to do, but not living life for you .. how's that working for you?  Do you feel an ache in your heart, like something important is missing? Of course you do.  You are here to live YOUR life and follow your bliss, enjoying the journey of life.  You will never be happy if you don't live a life that is true to your own heart's desires.

Allow yourself to be happy.  Choose what's right for you and what brings you joy!  If you are afraid to take that first step, contact me.  That's what I am here to do ... to help people like yourself BE HAPPY NOW and pave the way for a better future, one that is aligned with what lights you up and makes this life more enjoyable, enriching and fulfilling!!!

~ Maria Lesetz,  Law of Attraction Happiness Coach

Becoming a Life Coach: Learning how to Make Money in this Industry!

I've been a Life Coach for over 10 years now and I am very passionate about teaching those of you who really feel a calling to this industry to grow your own successful business!  I've invested in 2 coaching schools and have gone through a specialized training to also become a Certified Life Coach for Doctors.  I'm not going to lie to you ... I invested a lot of money in my coaching education.  Depending on what schools you go to and how long you train for, you can invest quite a bit before you even get your first client.  But I think that this type of approach is backwards, especially in this economy.

If you did your research on the internet you would find that many Life Coaches don't earn the greatest income ... at least not one to support themselves.  And I decided a while ago, that I am here to change that!  I've struggled with making decent money in the coaching industry.  And I think that one of the main reasons for this is that many of the coaching schools do NOT teach you how to make the money and grow your business, they just teach you how to be a great coach and the skills you need to develop in order to be great at what you do.

Now, don't get me wrong, this is VERY important -- I am grateful for the schools that I attended and feel that I am an even better coach as a result of that training.  At the same time, I would have preferred to start the journey in a different order -- where I learned from someone who has been there how to grow my coaching business and start making the money right away and then back myself up with the best coach training out there.

Look ... coaching isn't for everyone.  You know if you are the person who would be a great coach.  First and foremost, it has to resonate with you on every level -- where you want to help others achieve their greatest goals and dreams; where you want to teach people how to maintain a positive attitude, even during those times of adversity; where you want to help other people in such a profound way, where it alters their life path for the better, beyond their wildest expectations!  You also need to be the type of person that LISTENS MORE than talks; someone who knows the right questions that will bring out the unique answers that each of our clients have within.  If you are someone who thinks they know all the answers, then coaching is NOT for you.  Because each and every one of us has our own answers within ourselves.  What's good for you, is not necessarily good for someone else.  But that person just needs the right professional guidance to bring to the surface their own unique answers to their life plan.

I am on a mission to help as many new coaches as possible to make a living at this profession.  Consider me the Coach's coach!   And the first place we will start in the coaching is how to have the right mindset in order to make money as quickly as possible. 

The benefits of growing a coaching business are infinite.  Here are just a few out of the many that I could list:

1) You get to help people improve their lives at a very deep level.  It's a very rewarding profession to both the coach and the client.

2) You get to work from home or from the road ... wherever you have access to a phone or sometimes the internet for your international clients.

3) If you have a family, spouse, kids that you need to be around for, it's a business schedule that can be very flexible, because you make your own hours.  You decide when and how you are going to work your clients into your schedule.

4) If you are like me, you are also someone who can help society improve their overall health and well-being, so that they don't have to go to doctors as often as many people do -- which can have a very profound impact on people's fiscal health as well.

5) If you decide to relocate to a new state or different country, it's a very portable profession.  Like I said, as long as you have access to a phone, you are good to go and don't have to lose your clients because of a physical move.

 These are just a few of the benefits of learning how to make a viable business out of coaching.

If this intrigues you and resonates with you to the core of your being, then contact me and find out how you can start this journey right now and begin to make money helping others have a better life!
(And in the process, you will improve your overall happiness level, because you will be doing what you love to do and making money doing it!  Does it get any better than that?)

Feel free to visit my  Life Coaching Website to contact me and find about more about my journey and all the types of clients I service.  I love what I do and I am on a mission to help new coaches, like you, make more money and learn how to grow their businesses first and then start becoming the best coaches they can be!

Have a Lovin' Life day filled with abundant possibilities that make you smile from ear to ear!!!

~  Coach Maria

P.S.  If you are already a professional coach who is still struggling in this industry, please do contact me.  I will teach you what it takes to turn your business around and start thriving instead of struggling!!! 

Law of Attraction Overload Anonymous! (LOAOA)

Yes, I am a Law of Attraction coach, so you are probably wondering why the heck am I writing about Law of Attraction overload.   And especially the club LOAOA!  OK ... I just made that up.  I don't think that there really is an LOA Overload Anonymous group ... but there could be!

Do you ever feel like you go to every Law of Attraction seminar and tele-class in creation and yet you still feel like you are not getting any where?  You've read all the books, your library of self-help books is taking over your house, you have been doing all the Law of Attraction "exercises" and  ... nothing!

When you are in overwhelm with all this stuff, it's time to de-clutter your repertoire of LOA material and take a big step back, a big deep breath and stop the insanity!

You see, it's not because the Law of Attraction doesn't work ... it does.  But so many of us try so hard to change our lives for the better and are so desperate to "make" something happen, that we forget that it is all about "how we feel" that attracts things into our lives.

So, think about it ... let's say you are doing a Focus Wheel every day, envisioning your dream unfolding while doing your daily meditation, reading the latest inspirational Law of Attraction book you got your hands on, but at the end of the day or week you are still feeling frustrated.  What gives?

You guessed it ... it's that frustration that will get you all the time.  Your biggest job is to pay attention to your emotions and use that as your guidance system, your teacher, to move you up that vibrational scale.

The secret is also in the energy and space you come from when you are doing all these LOA exercises and educating yourself with all this material.  If you come from a desperate place of "this has to change or else ...", you can see where that may not be the "vibration" that is going to bring you what you want.  Matter of fact, it is going to do just the opposite.

I recently wrote an article for a magazine on "making peace with what is" and that is part of what you have to do in order to bring on more change.  It sounds counter-intuitive, but it is not.  You see, if you are resisting your current situation so much and desperately doing everything in your power to change it, while feeling frustrated that "you are not there yet", that will only lock your current situation in place and bring you even more of what you don't want.

So, do yourself a favor.  De-clutter your Law of Attraction and Self-help repertoire.  Only do a couple of the things that make you feel REALLY good and get rid of the rest.  Try it out.   Life is supposed to be fun.  Stop making it SO hard.  And make sure that you pay extra special attention to the energy you are coming from when you do anything that is part of your "pivot to the positive" tool kit.  Check in with your intention.   Ask yourself:

"Am I coming from a desperate place here?"  

"Is this LOA exercise making me feel at peace, centered, hopeful or bringing more attention to the exact thing that I don't want?"

"Am I going to be disappointed if this doesn't manifest within a week, a month, etc.?"  


(Hint:  That's a clue ... when you have a timeframe on your desires and you already know that if it doesn't come by then, you are going to be upset ... oops! That's a big no-no when it comes to the Law of Attraction.  You are more rooted in "lack" of it when you are keeping score and feeling bad about it not being here yet.  What you attract is 100% correlated with what you are focused on.  So, if you are more focused on "it's not here yet ... crap!", that's what you are going to get more of.

Stop throwing the Law of Attraction kitchen sink at all your goals.  Keep it simple.  Always remember to reach for a better feeling thought.  Make peace with what is.  Let go of the how.  And stop looking and keeping score that your goal has not been reached.  Chill out.

When you relax about it all and trust that your only job is to feel good, you will attract more positive things into your life than you ever could have imagined.

No laundry list of action steps required.  

Life is a journey.  Enjoy it!