There are many skeptics out there who just don't believe in all this positivity stuff! Maybe you know someone who has said:
"Yeah, right ... I just think I am going to be a millionaire and I will be! Sure. That sounds like a bunch of hooey to me!"
Well, listen in on one of my latest Fox News inspirational videos on this very topic and then I will elaborate further on what it takes (in addition to positive thinking) to deliberately create our life experiences the way we want them to be:
Many of you try to muscle your way into positive thinking, but deep down you still feel the same way (i.e., a negative feeling of doubt, worry, despair, frustration) which is the foundation of the sugar coating you are putting on top with those positive thoughts. If you have a sugar coating on something sour underneath, it's not going to turn out a sweet deal, is it?!
What really needs to be changed is what you are feeling underneath those thoughts. Think about it, if you see someone with a smile on their face, does that actually mean that they are happy on the inside? No. Not necessarily. It could be a fake smile. It could be someone who puts on a show on the outside, but has turmoil underneath. We never really know what someone is feeling on the inside. Only you know how you feel. And that's where it is important to start the shift.
Now, here's where many of my new coaching clients get tripped up with this positive thinking and Law of Attraction. They came to one of their first sessions, are familiar with the Law of Attraction, and think that they can't express anything negative because if they give it attention they are going to attract more of the negative. Now, that is true in the bigger picture, but it is important to recognize and acknowledge what you are feeling ... LET IT OUT. Express your emotions. Because if you suppress those emotions, they are not going to go away and they will always have a negative impact on what you attract into your life. So, in my Fox News video above, that's why I recommend to feel your emotions and then move on from there.
One day I screamed out to the Universe "I don't need fixing! I am perfect just the way I am!" (which was in response to some teleclass I attended that brought up some thoughts about myself that were not aligned with joy!) And boy, did that feel good. It was like letting out a great big "AHHHHHHH"! And the release and relief I felt just from letting that out felt incredible!
And from that place of relief, we can move forward and attract more of what we want into our lives.
The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like" whether you are focusing on the negative or the positive. And where our attraction power really lies is in THE WAY WE FEEL underneath all those words we use and the thoughts we have. It's our feelings that are the magnets for our life experiences.
So, is positive thinking a bunch of hooey? Not if you are feeling positive underneath! And if you are feeling negative emotions, you need to first be aware of them and then reach for that feeling of relief (which can be achieved in a variety of ways, including REALLY feeling those emotions and letting them out) and once you consciously make that decision to feel slightly better on a regular basis, your life experiences will begin to be more positive ones and you are well on your way to achieving your desires and dreams.
To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria
