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Monday, February 28, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip: Remain Optimistically Delusional!

This is a favorite topic of mine and one I get a kick out of when I read the traditional definition of "delusional". Here's what I found from and


A delusion is a fixed belief that is either false, fanciful, or derived from deception. In psychiatry, it is defined to be a belief that is pathological (the result of an illness or illness process) and is held despite evidence to the contrary. As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, dogma, stupidity, apperception, illusion, or other effects of perception.

1. a mistaken or misleading opinion, idea, belief, etc: he has delusions of grandeur
2. psychiatry illusion See also hallucination a belief held in the face of evidence to
the contrary, that is resistant to all reason
3. the act of deluding or state of being deluded

Both of these definitions imply that being "delusional" is believing in something that is "false" or "misleading" and "resistant to all reason".

This is where I start to have fun with this. Because "being delusional to our advantage" or as I phrased it in my Blog title as "Optimistically Delusional" is actually a really effective tool to use in order to leverage the Laws of Attraction in our favor.

If you believe something, contrary to any evidence that is in front of you, and if what you believe makes you hopeful, empowered, feel good, then why not believe it? Matter of fact, if you chose to NOT believe it, just because there was no evidence in front of you that said this could happen, you would be hindering your manifestation abilities to unfold your dreams and desires.

Think of inventors. Do they see the proof in front of them when they cook up some crazy invention in their head that is going to change the way the world operates? No. They only believe it can happen in their mind. They are "delusional" to their advantage and as a result of their "delusions of grandeur", inventors create things that have a huge positive impact on society.

When we are experiencing contrast in our lives (e.g., having negative experiences in one or more areas of our life that we wish we could change), it is almost a requirement that we embrace the "optimistically delusional" attitude in order to start turning those areas of our life around to the positive.

In the face of adversity, we need to believe in the positive, despite the negative that is in front of us.

I think we should all tap into our inner inventor and create in our minds to our glory. Cook up "delusional" life scenarios that we desire to live out that make our hearts sing. Believe in those scenarios before an ounce of manifestation occurs. Trust that once we dream up these life scenarios that the HOW will unfold with precision and ease.

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Does Pretending and Imagining Help you to Attract what you Want in Life?

I recently downloaded an app for my iMac which was a casino slot game. Yes, I do occasionally enjoy going to the casino to play the slots, so I thought
"Hey, why not. It may be quite fun!"

I am having the time of my life with it. It is SO fun! I actually feel like I am winning BIG jackpots when I get those bonus rounds and free spins. And I am!
It feels awesome!

So, here's the question, if I am pretending and imagining with this MAC app to be winning jackpots, does that mean I will attract a real JACKPOT win into my life or something even bigger and better -- meaning I will attract more of the VIBE of hitting the jackpot with anything in my life?

Well, my simple answer is YES. And here's why I believe this to be true and when "pretending and imagining" really works: I actually FEEL like a winner when I am playing! My vibe is so high and I am in pure joy. I am smiling, enjoying myself, Lovin' Life (of course I am! ).

So, if you are actually feeling the vibe/emotion that you would feel if what you want was actually happening AND you can feel that in your NOW, then you will definitely attract more life events that will make you feel that fabulous way!

So, anything you "pretend" and "imagine" that feels real in this present moment to you and activates that VORTEX vibe that Abraham-Hicks talks about in their Law of Attraction teachings, is a good thing and will attract more of what you want into your life. Isn't that great news?!

After all, it is all about "feeling good". When you feel good in your now, despite any bumps in the road you are experiencing in your life, that's when you open the door to future positive life experiences. And according to the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, it really doesn't matter what it is you do to get to that "feel good" place as long as whatever you do brings you a feeling of relief and makes you feel better. And ideally, if you can do something that will bring the essence of how you will feel when you do have what you want and activate that feeling right now, you are on your way to attracting your desires and dreams!

Pretending and imagining works when it doesn't feel like you are pretending and it feels REAL to you right here, right now. That's the key to leveraging the power of our imaginations as a tool to attract what we want in life.

The Universe doesn't know whether we are pretending or actually living it as long as the emotions we are feeling when we are pretending are the same type of emotions as we would feel when we are living our dream. How's that for cool?!

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Law of Attraction and Positive Thinking ... a Bunch of Hooey?!

There are many skeptics out there who just don't believe in all this positivity stuff! Maybe you know someone who has said:

"Yeah, right ... I just think I am going to be a millionaire and I will be! Sure. That sounds like a bunch of hooey to me!"

Well, listen in on one of my latest Fox News inspirational videos on this very topic and then I will elaborate further on what it takes (in addition to positive thinking) to deliberately create our life experiences the way we want them to be:

Many of you try to muscle your way into positive thinking, but deep down you still feel the same way (i.e., a negative feeling of doubt, worry, despair, frustration) which is the foundation of the sugar coating you are putting on top with those positive thoughts. If you have a sugar coating on something sour underneath, it's not going to turn out a sweet deal, is it?!

What really needs to be changed is what you are feeling underneath those thoughts. Think about it, if you see someone with a smile on their face, does that actually mean that they are happy on the inside? No. Not necessarily. It could be a fake smile. It could be someone who puts on a show on the outside, but has turmoil underneath. We never really know what someone is feeling on the inside. Only you know how you feel. And that's where it is important to start the shift.

Now, here's where many of my new coaching clients get tripped up with this positive thinking and Law of Attraction. They came to one of their first sessions, are familiar with the Law of Attraction, and think that they can't express anything negative because if they give it attention they are going to attract more of the negative. Now, that is true in the bigger picture, but it is important to recognize and acknowledge what you are feeling ... LET IT OUT. Express your emotions. Because if you suppress those emotions, they are not going to go away and they will always have a negative impact on what you attract into your life. So, in my Fox News video above, that's why I recommend to feel your emotions and then move on from there.

One day I screamed out to the Universe "I don't need fixing! I am perfect just the way I am!" (which was in response to some teleclass I attended that brought up some thoughts about myself that were not aligned with joy!) And boy, did that feel good. It was like letting out a great big "AHHHHHHH"! And the release and relief I felt just from letting that out felt incredible!

And from that place of relief, we can move forward and attract more of what we want into our lives.

The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like" whether you are focusing on the negative or the positive. And where our attraction power really lies is in THE WAY WE FEEL underneath all those words we use and the thoughts we have. It's our feelings that are the magnets for our life experiences.

So, is positive thinking a bunch of hooey? Not if you are feeling positive underneath! And if you are feeling negative emotions, you need to first be aware of them and then reach for that feeling of relief (which can be achieved in a variety of ways, including REALLY feeling those emotions and letting them out) and once you consciously make that decision to feel slightly better on a regular basis, your life experiences will begin to be more positive ones and you are well on your way to achieving your desires and dreams.

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Friday, February 25, 2011

A Law of Attraction Lesson: TRUST More!

Sometimes when I need some guidance I just get quiet within myself and ask my higher self a question about the situation in my life that I want to change.

I often get this answer:


Now, it sounds so simple, and I must admit that the first time I got this answer, I said something to the effect of "OK ... but what else can I do?" HA! Sometimes we are so funny. Because we don't realize that our inner guidance is the most powerful tool we have and that the answers do NOT have to be complicated at all. Matter of fact, they can be quite simple.

"Relax, Trust & Let Go" is the most brilliant guidance ANYONE can get. Why? Because when we are so attached to an outcome and we are trying to "make something happen" and get frustrated because it is not happening in our lives, we are rooted in lack and distrust. And from a Law of Attraction perspective our focus is on the fact that it is NOT happening and you know what that means -- we will keep on attracting that "not happening" vibe into our life experience!

We try way too hard. Life is supposed to be fun and attracting our dreams and desires shouldn't be so difficult, unless we make it that way! Many of us believe that achieving our goals has to be "hard" or "difficult". But the only reason why we experience that it is hard, is because we believe it has to be. It's the belief that creates our reality.

My inner guidance was trying to tell me that I need to TRUST MORE that the positive outcome and the desires I have are on their way and that the ONLY thing I need to do is to chill about it all and BELIEVE that "All is Well".

My inner guidance also told me that anytime I felt "off" or started to have those gremlin thoughts or doubts that I should put my hand over my heart and affirm "ALL IS WELL" and that's what I do now and it connects me with a peaceful feeling and a knowing that ALL truly is well! Try it. It may work for you as well.

To your health & happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip: When you find yourself dwelling on the past!

As you know, the Law of Attraction is always in action. What you think and feel creates your current reality. So, if you are thinking about the past and feeling bad about it, not only are you making your past the part of your now, but you are also bringing a "lack" or "negative" feeling into your now, which is not going to have a positive impact on your future life experiences.

Today, I was walking through Costco and I found myself thinking about something I manifested in the past and I realized that when I thought about that it didn't make me feel happy or joyous at all. So, being someone who is quite aware of my emotions and how I am feeling in the moment, I right away stopped myself in the act of that "lackful" thought and told myself the following very simple phrase that really helped me to pivot to a better feeling place:

It's a new day!

And as soon as I said this, it activated a feeling within me that said "hey, it's a new day and things can turn on a dime! What happened in the past has nothing to do with the now, unless you make it so!"

WOW ... that felt good!!! And it is a "new day", a "new moment", a new "choice" that we can make to think something different and believe in the positive possibilities of the future.

What we think in the now is where our power resides.

Yes, we are that powerful and only we can change the course of our lives by the thoughts we think and the feelings we feel. It can be that simple if we make it that way.

So, when you find yourself dwelling on the past, just remember this simple phrase:

"It's a new day!"

And remind yourself that "that was then, and this is now" and the two have nothing to do with each other unless we "glue" them together!!!

To your health & happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Law of Attraction Tip: When You Feel like you Missed the Boat on that Opportunity!

I am sure you have felt this way where you really wanted to attract something in your life, possibly a new job or meet that ideal mate, and you feel like you missed the boat on that opportunity. Maybe you missed a call or someone contacted that person prior to you and now that other person is "hooked up" with someone else.

You know the feeling. It's one where you feel like "oh crap, I didn't get there on time!" or "I didn't take action quick enough!"

Listen to my Fox News video clip below on this very topic and then we will come back to elaborate further on what you should do during times when you feel this way:

If you come from that place of "there are an infinite number of paths that I can achieve my goals", then you don't put so much weight on that one opportunity that you feel like you missed. Because there are so many more opportunities on their way to you, if you allow them to come by believing in the abundance of them.

Our dreams can unfold in so many different ways. We don't have to figure it all out. We just have to believe in our dreams and know that they are a given. Then, if we just take inspired action steps, all the rest of the steps will unfold naturally and organically so that it doesn't have to feel so "hard" to live our dreams.

And the biggest lesson here is to flip the story you tell yourself to one that feels good. If you tell the story of "I missed that boat" and then choose to embrace that your desire is not going to come to you because you didn't do something you "should have" done, that feels like crap! And feeling bad is DEFINITELY not going to bring you what you want in life.

Believe in those infinite number of paths and next time you catch yourself say "I missed that boat", tell yourself "that's OK, cause another one is coming!"

To your health & happiness,
~ Coach Maria