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Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Throwing a Pitty Party!

Yesterday I had an "off" day. Yes, even a Happiness Coach has some "off" moments ... I am human! ;-) Sometimes you just have to let yourself feel what you feel. I know that is SO profound, but it is such a helpful tip for being able to move on from that emotional crap that we sometimes get stuck in!!!

So, yesterday's mood got me thinking. You see I was doing what many of you do ... I was beating up on myself yesterday about some decisions I had made in the past. Now, I know better, but I just had to LET IT OUT, get it off my chest, cry, get angry! I know ... shocker, huh? You may not find too many happiness coaches admitting that they have those feelings. But, we do. The only difference between the way I may process those type of feelings and you may process them, is that I am so hyper-aware of what I am feeling and I also know that what I feel impacts what comes next, that I make sure I do everything in my power to shift the feeling into a better feeling place!

And yesterday I came up with a new approach. I was driving in the car with my honey and here's what came out of my mouth =>

"Maybe we should throw a pitty party, buy balloons, beat up on ourselves all day and then make a pact with each other that after we do that for one day, we are done! No more beating up on ourselves. No more feeling stuck. Decide that "THAT'S IT!"

Now, we didn't throw the party yet, but it did make me chuckle and I even found some relief in just the thought of throwing that party. First of all, I absolutely know that I could not beat up on myself for an entire day .... it probably wouldn't last 1 hour (if that). Second of all, I know that when I beat up on myself, it only makes me feel worse, it doesn't solve a thing and it keeps me from taking inspired action steps that will move me towards the direction of my dreams! So, why the heck do it?

So ... what would your pitty party look like? Who would you invite to join in your misery? How would you decorate? What food would you serve? I know at my party there would be a lot of chocolate and purple and red balloons! :) :) :)

Just even thinking about that party right now, makes me smile because it is so ridiculous! And as you know from the Law of Attraction, any feeling of relief is a good one! So, feeling relief from just the thought of throwing a pitty party is exactly what I needed yesterday to keep me moving forward and living a life filled with joy instead of regrets.

"Regrets are just another way we beat up on ourselves
and stop our dreams from unfolding."
~ Maria Lesetz

Sunday, April 1, 2012

When you Feel Stuck! ... Musings of a Happiness Coach

I was inspired to write this as a result of what someone wrote to me in response to what I posted as my status on Facebook recently.

Here’s what I wrote:
Reviewing some new coaching clients answers to my Client Interview Questionnaire! I just love helping my clients live the life of their dreams! I sure LOVE what I do! :)

And here is what someone posted on my wall in reply to this status update:
“I wish my job was something that I could love every day...but its just NOT. There are many aspects that nobody should have to endure, but someone has to. Like your job, people call me when situations get beyond their control...but unlike me, they are happy to deal with you. You are very fortunate. Never forget that.”

Now, my first reaction to this was ...
“Yes, I am fortunate, but you can feel that way too!!! You can choose a different job. You are never “stuck”! And embracing the attitude of “someone has to do a job that nobody should ever have to endure and I am the one who has to do it” – that’s just a story you are telling yourself. Also, if you EXPECT that people are going to be unhappy dealing with you at your job, then you will get just that ... unhappy people. And it is not because of the type of job you have. It is because you are expecting the worst, so your expectation manifests your experiences! Period!

Now, I don't mean to be harsh with my answer to this, I just want you to realize that you are NEVER "stuck" in any life situation. You can change it if you really want to. I quit my corporate job to start my own business because I had enough of that corporate environment. It was no longer aligned with what was bringing me joy. I made that decision for me and my overall happiness!

You have a choice too. You are ALWAYS at choice in any given moment of the day to change what you are thinking and feeling and ultimately change the direction of your life path for the better.

If you don’t like your job, you don’t have to “put up” with it because “someone has to do it”. And why does that someone have to be you anyway? There are plenty of people who follow careers that to other people may appear dangerous, depressing, challenging, but to them it is their passion - think of Doctors, Law Enforcement, Suicide Hotlines, Social Workers, etc. There may be lots of stress in these types of jobs but if you are one of the people who has this type of career, hopefully you picked this career because it is something you are passionate about and it is aligned with your values and brings you great joy.

And if you are in one of these careers where you initially went into it for the passion but you find that you have lost the passion for it OR if it has become too stressful and is starting to impact your quality of life, then why not do something about it? Decide that you are worth so much more than "settling for something that doesn't make you happy".

The change you seek starts with working on YOU.

After all, isn't it all about enjoying YOUR life?
Aren't you entitled to live a life you love?
This is what I am so passionate about helping my coaching clients with!

Now, you may be thinking "what about the economy, this isn't the time to be making changes". Well, the "economy" is only an issue if you believe it to be. The only thing that matters that will have an impact on what you can do next is what you believe is possible, no matter what is happening outside of you. The nature of your thoughts, feelings and beliefs is what determines your life experiences.

YOU create your reality.

If you feel "stuck" in any area of your life, I would love to help you get unstuck!
Contact me today to find out about my Lovin' Life Coaching Services.

And by the way, "stuck" is just a mindset. It's a story you are telling yourself that you have the power to change. Ultimately it is all up to you, but I can guide you by asking you the right questions that will unlock what is right for you so that you can live a life that is filled with joy and ease. Doesn’t that sound so much lighter and exciting than settling for something less than a fabulous life?!

Always remember ... you are NEVER stuck. There is always a path that you can take that will align more with what brings you JOY! And the key is to embrace the right mindset that will get you there. And there is nothing that is stopping you from doing that ... except you!

Wishing you a Lovin' Life rest of the day!
~ Maria C. Lesetz, CEO of Lovin' Life
Positive Energy Maven & Happiness Guru