My Fox News TV Interview on Choosing Happiness!

Monday, November 21, 2011

Got the blues? Call a Happiness Coach!

Happiness Coaching isn't just for the select few. Matter of fact it is a service that many people (from all walks of life) are seeking out these days! From Corporate CEO's to housewives to medical professionals and even students; Happiness is something we all seek. But what many of us forget is that Happiness is not just found when we reach our goals and desires. Matter of fact it is exactly the opposite. Achieving our goals and dreams is dependent on how happy we are right here, right now in this present moment. And the great news is that Happiness is something that we can all find within, despite the bumps in the road we face each and every day.

I've been a Happiness Coach for over 10 years now and the one thing I have taught all my coaching clients is that CHOOSING TO BE HAPPY, no matter what, is the key that will open up the door to all your dreams and desires. Yes, sounds a bit corny ... but it is SO true! We always have a choice at how we respond to what life throws our way. And our attitude towards each and every one of our life events is what determines our future life experiences.

There is a Happiness Coaching WAVE that is even happening in the corporate arena, where companies are starting to realize that Happy Employees translates to Healthy, Loyal and Productive Employees which positively impacts the overall success of the company. It's a win-win for all! When I help my corporate clients reduce stress, improve work-life balance, learn how to maintain a positive mindset in the midst of work chaos, they are happier with their career and equate going to work with what brings them joy. And when that happens, not only is the employee happy (and healthier!), but the company that he or she works for benefits ten-fold!!!

On a side note, have you noticed how often "Happiness" is being used as a form of marketing of very large companies? Think about it... Coca-Cola, they have the slogan "Open Happiness"; My Frito Lays slighted salted potato chips say on the bag "Happiness in every bite". And I saw the same type of Happiness message on a Hershey's Chocolate bag too! Isn't it interesting how these companies are using the message of Happiness to sell their products. But come on, we are not fooled ... we all know that a bag of chips or a soda is not going to bring us TRUE happiness. Sure, it may put a smile on your face momentarily (especially that yummy dark chocolate), but inner happiness is not found in food or any material item or even in another person.

It's that "inner happiness" that really feels so yummy and is what will help us to live a fabulous, fulfilling life!

So, if you have the blues and are finding yourself dreading going to work, worrying about your future, your health, your relationships, or if you are just simply lacking that oomph to step up and go after your greatest desires and dreams (because of all the naysayers out there that say you can't because of the economy), then make a decision today to hop on board the Lovin' Life bus => Happiness Coaching at its finest!

Sunday, August 14, 2011

The Art of ALLOWING: Being DETACHED from the Outcome!

I recently had a coaching client ask me the following questions via e-mail:

I wonder how do I really know what I want, but be content with or separated from the outcome of it.

What a fabulous, philosophical question -- ones that I thoroughly enjoy answering from my clients each and every day. It is definitely something that many of us have a hard time doing ... "being detached from the outcome" or even "making peace with what is". Often we know what we want, but find ourselves very attached to everything happening in a certain way and in a certain time frame (oooh, am I guilty on the latter -- I want it NOW! Do you ever feel that way?). Unfortunately (or fortunately ... depending on how you look at it), it doesn't always happen that way, and sometimes for very good reasons.

So here was my reply to my client:

There are a few pieces to this question that needs to be addressed.

First, you need to identify what you REALLY want. Sometimes we don't have all the details of this and we oscillate back and forth with what exactly it is that we would like to have, but often we can definitely get clearer by observing the things that we don't want and turning those around (like a 180 degree turn) to what we do want. Many people think they don't really know what they want, but, they actually do because they know what they DON'T want! Make sense? Now, I know this is not the essence of your question, but I felt it was important to address the part of "knowing what you want".

Now ... to the heart of the question: Knowing what you want while simultaneously ...

1) Being content with the outcome
... hmmmm, well, I think what you are asking here is how to make peace with the outcome you are getting and still believe that you can manifest what you really want. It really comes down to knowing that no matter what is in front of you, there are an infinite number of ways to attract what you want into your life. Matter of fact, sometimes the outcomes you are getting (that you may not be content with) are the exact ones that need to happen in order for you to get what you want (even though it doesn't appear that way at the time). And sometimes, the outcome that you are getting (that may not be that close to what you really want) gives you even MORE clarity as to what you want. So, how to be content with where you are at, with a clear intention of where you want to go is something that you decide to do - it's a choice. It's also an inner knowing, a confidence that it will all work out. Which leads to the second part of your question ...

2) Being separated from the outcome --- which I believe you are referring to as "being detached" from the outcome. The answer is similar to #1, but slightly different in that "being detached" or "separated" from the outcome means that you can't NEED this outcome to happen. Need repels. Detachment and Trust attracts. So, when we decide what it is we really want AND choose to let go of the HOW it is going to happen and detach ourselves from the outcome, that's when the magic happens -- that's when the doors open, the surprising opportunities come our way (that we never could have cooked up in our minds), that's what LOA calls the "ALLOWING" space or the Art of Allowing. There is no resistance to what we are faced with in this current moment. There is no focus on lack. There is just a peaceful, flowing energy that feels light-hearted and refreshing, with a conviction and knowing that it is all going to unfold perfectly so that we are living our dreams.

Now, let's talk about how we get to that "feeling" place of ALLOWING and detaching from the outcome:

There are many things that can help you to "detach" from the outcome. Just the reminder that the NEED will repel what you really want to attract into your life, is good enough for some people to let go and detach from the outcome. Sometimes affirmations help to keep you detached and removed while still believing that what you really want is going to happen (and these affirmations have to be ones that are felt to the core of your being -- not just words you are speaking).

Also, releasing exercises like NPA or the Sedona Method can help to bring you to that "allowing" place and being at "peace with what is" so that you can change the situation to a more desirable outcome. It's funny, because many people think it is the opposite way ... that if we just dwell and try to figure it out and find the HOW, then it is going to happen ... but this is NOT the case. Yes, determination is a big piece of the puzzle (i.e., being a "go-getter"), however, if there is too much "attachment" to wanting it and NEED, then the Universe views that as "you are rooted in the LACK of having what you want" -- which as you know only means one thing ... that you will get more lack.

It truly is an "art" to ALLOW what we want to come into our lives. So many of us fall into that belief that we have to "work hard" and/or "do things in a certain way" to make things happen. But that's not the case. We just need to learn how to be easier about it all and TRUST more that what we want can come to us in a gazillion ways once we make peace with what is and let go of HOW it is all going to happen and be a little bit more "loosey goosey" with the exact outcome. After all, something even better than the outcome that you are cooking up in your mind could happen -- so why be attached to that specific outcome? Allow the Universe to unfold its magic! :)

Friday, August 5, 2011

The RANT Zone!

You may be surprised to hear a Law of Attraction coach telling you that it is good to rant and let out your anger out once in a while! But it is! You see, so many of us hold our emotions and what we feel inside and not let it out, that it just builds up and literally eats us up from the inside!

Like I have mentioned before in my previous blog posts, what we feel is felt at every cell of our body and definitely impacts the overall health of our cells. So, if you are someone who "keeps it all in", you are not doing your physical body any justice. That stress that you internalize will kill you eventually ... one way or another.

I encourage my coaching clients to LET IT OUT! FEEL WHAT THEY FEEL! SCREAM! SHOUT! GET MAD or ANGRY! All that letting out of emotions is a good releasing of what's felt on the inside. This goes for crying too. Haven't you ever had a good cry and then felt some relief after it? It's good to let it all out!

There are so many people in the Law of Attraction community that pretend to be always so happy and positive and from the outside, they do appear that way. But I know many people in this community ... and let me tell you ... what they say and what they feel on the inside are totally different things. And that's OK if they want to be that way ... but the bottom line is this ... they will attract ONLY what they feel, not what they say or how they come across to other people. So, if you think that practicing the Law of Attraction just means that you have to "pretend to be happy", you are sadly mistaken.

If you really want to attract what you want in your life, you have to live your life fully by feeling your emotions, letting them guide you, letting them out, knowing what to do with them so that you can create a better life for yourself.

I recently tweeted about something new I am offering people so that they can FEEL their emotions, let them out freely, with no judgment and in a "safe zone". It's my "Let it out ALL in 10 minutes" product that will give you the freedom to RANT and do a good brain dump of all that "stuff" that you wish you could say out loud, but for some reason or another don't.

If you are ready to RANT, sign up below and as soon as I receive your payment I will be contacting you to set up that fabulous 10 minutes of releasing those negative feelings!


Thursday, March 10, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip: Making Peace with What Is!

This is a Law of Attraction tip that I have been sharing and teaching for years with my students and clients. And one that I have embraced over the years that has made quite a positive difference in my life in terms of the quality of the life experiences that I continue to attract into my life.

Many people have a tough time with "making peace with what is" (I used to too!).

After all, how do you make peace with "what is" if "what is" isn't what you want in your life?

What a great question, huh?

On the surface that seems like it would be a difficult thing to do. And it can sure feel that way. But there is a misconception about "making peace with what is". Many people think that this means "giving into it" or "giving up on your dreams and accepting that you will have to put up with what you are dealing with forever". And that's just not the case.

To me, making peace with what is just means that you release a lot of the resistance you have around it. Because we all know that what you resist ... persists. From a Law of Attraction stand point that makes perfect sense because when you are "resisting something" you are giving it A LOT of your attention and focus to it. And what you are giving your attention to is the exact thing that you don't like, don't want, want to get rid of. So, you are rooted in LACK ... lack of thing that you really want. And of course, what do you continue to attract? More of what you don't want; more proof that what you are focusing on is going to continue to stay there.

So "acceptance" and "making peace with" is more about softening the resistance. Now, some people find this easier to do on certain areas of their life, than others. Why would that be? I believe it is because in those areas that feel "difficult", there is a thick web of dis-empowering stories that we are telling ourselves that need to be shifted and changed before we can make that peace and "accept what is". I help my clients to uncover these dis-empowering stories and to re-write them so that they feel so much better and as a result, bring them great relief. Relief is a much better feeling than "resistance" and as a result leads to a shift to a more peaceful, ALLOWING place so that what we can more easily attract what we really want in our lives.

For me, when I rationalize it out and ask myself "Is NOT making peace with this bringing you what you want?" and the answer is a clear "No. It's just making me feel worse", that seems to open up the doorway to the peaceful, AHHHHHH, feeling and a relaxed state of being around the situation. Being a deliberate creator of my life experiences I know how important it is to feel good, so as soon as I recognize that the emotion that I am choosing to hold onto makes me feel worse, I realize that my only job is to improve how I feel.

I also remind myself that there is always a hidden gem in every life situation that I am experiencing and that the sum total of those experiences is what made me who I am today -- which is a strong, passionate, powerful woman who can do anything when she puts her mind to it and has "beaucoup" positive energy to give to others. I appreciate all challenges I have ever experienced, because they have just made me stronger. So, in reality, there is no "bad" or "good" event, they are not to be judged, it is just how we respond to them that makes a difference in how fully we experience life.

I often tweet the following quote that I came up with which summarizes this concept beautifully:

"Make peace with what is, with a clear intention of where you want to go." ~ Lesetz

To Your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

How to handle REGRETS!

I just read a quote recently that really struck me:

"Never regret anything because at one point it was EXACTLY what you wanted!" ~ Unknown

Think about that for a second. Regrets are all about something we did in the past that NOW we are wishing we didn't OR wishing that we could have a "Do-Over" on that same situation. Do you ever feel like that? I know that I have had those thoughts where I remember something I did in the past where it took me on a specific life path that now, I might be judging and saying "if I only knew then, what I know now, I would have done things differently". Now, what I just described could be considered a regret.

Let's look at a couple of definitions that I found on an online dictionary site (

Regret ... A feeling of disappointment or distress about something that one wishes could be different.

or ... Regret ... A sense of loss and longing for something or something gone.

Sometimes I wish I did do things differently when I look back into the past. But, I also know that when I do that it doesn't feel so good. Feeling regret is low on that emotional scale of JOY. It's actually quite far from the feeling of the "vortex" that Abraham-Hicks talks about in their Law of Attraction teachings. And choosing to be a deliberate creator of my life experiences, I typically catch myself in the act of feeling this way and make the decision to tell myself another story or let go of what happened then and realize that the most important thing that will determine my future life experiences is what I am feeling NOW in this present moment.

And when it comes down to it, regretting something you did in the past isn't going to change your situation. It's just going to keep you feeling distressed, depressed, angry, frustrated, stuck ... all feelings that will ONLY attract to you life situations that will continue to make you feel this way. Remember ... the Law of Attraction simply states "Like attracts like".

Now, going back to the quote I started this blog post with, it essentially is saying that what we regret NOW is something we did back in the past that we actually WANTED to do. WOW ... how profound is that! So, back then, we CHOSE to quit that job, marry or divorce that person, take a risk, start a new business, move to a new location, party a little too much, ... and the list goes on of all the things that we may be regretting that we wish we never did.

My philosophy is that "everything happens for a reason" and that the things that challenge us in life can also help us to grow emotionally and spiritually. Each and every event impacts the next. So you really don't know if that thing you are regretting had to happen in order for you to be where you are today. I can find the blessings in the things that I may consider as regrets. And when I do, I feel so much better. Because I am flipping the story I am telling myself. I am seeing the "gem" in the rough stone that appears dirty, ugly and invaluable. There is always a lesson to be learned and there is always growth that can happen. It's all a matter of how we choose to look at things.

I believe Wayne Dyer says "Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change." (or something to that effect). And it's true. You can view your life with a different pair of lenses and all of a sudden, your life would not look as bad as you thought it was before you chose to put on those "positive, feel good" lenses. Do you know what I mean?

How do you handle regrets? You choose to view them differently. You choose to see the blessings in all your life events. You recognize that feeling regret is not going to attract to you what you want in your life and that it will only put a pause button on your dreams and desires. You see the beauty in the fact that in each and every moment we are at choice to feel a certain way.

Simply stated ... Regrets don't feel good. And when you don't feel good, you are NOT attracting what you want into your life. So, stop regretting the past and start living in the NOW and realizing the power you have in this present moment to create a fabulous future just by the nature of the thoughts and feelings that you choose to have.

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Friday, March 4, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip that Many Find Difficult to do=> Let Go of the HOW!

If you are a Law of Attraction student, teacher, expert, I am sure you have heard the advice of "Letting go of the HOW" (i.e., HOW it is going to happen). I teach this to all my students and coaching clients as well. And I often remind myself to LET GO OF THE HOW with some of my big dreams.

However, many people find this quite difficult to do. Maybe that's you. After all, we are a society of "figure out-ers"! We want to know HOW to do something. What are the steps? How do I get "there"?

And sometimes figuring out the HOW is exciting. It feels like we are being productive. It sometimes can feel down right EMPOWERING. But those are not the times that I am talking about when I offer the advice of LETTING GO OF THE HOW. I am referring to those times when we get frustrated by trying to figure it all out. You know the times I am talking about - when you have this goal or dream and you are trying to figure out in that brain of yours ... Maybe a few of these statements sound familiar to you:

"How the heck am I going to achieve that?!

There are so many steps to get there and I don't know all of them.

It feels impossible.

This dream feels HUGE and out of reach.

It feels like "pie in the sky" (This is something one of my Doctor coaching clients told me when she was referring to a goal she had for starting her own side business in the wellness industry.)

Letting go of the HOW is important to do when we are getting caught up in our gremlin thoughts around the HOW and it is frustrating the heck out of us. As Law of Attraction students, we know that "frustration" will not bring us what we want in our lives. At least, it will not bring us the ideal situation. So, if our emotions are our indicators of what we are attracting into our lives, we must do something about that frustration. And the only thing to do when we can't figure out the HOW is to let go of trying to figure it out.

Now, I know that sounds easier said than done. Because many of us are wired (I'm raising my hand here) to get into the nitty gritty details and find the path to making it happen. But often when we do this, coming from that frustration place, we get absolutely nowhere! We feel stuck. Oh yes, I know that feeling of "stuck" - do you?

Feeling "stuck" is more about the nature of our thoughts and feelings than what is going on outside of us. We are "stuck" in the type of thoughts we are choosing to think on a daily basis. So, we have to shake it up a bit. Pivot our thoughts. Turn our focus to something that brings us relief (even if it has absolutely NOTHING to do with the goal at hand).

I use a few techniques, tools, exercises that help my coaching clients (and myself) to let go of the how. These are releasing techniques that help us to feel more at peace and to trust more in the natural process of the unfolding of our dreams.

Letting go of the HOW doesn't have to be that difficult. It's only difficult if we believe it is. I am the type of person where "logic" really resonates with me. So, when I ask myself the following question, I usually LET GO after the answer:

"Is trying to figure out the HOW making you FEEL GOOD?"

Usually, my answer is NO. And once I am aware of that, it is far easier for me to LET GO of figuring out the HOW and to remind myself to TRUST MORE and believe that everything is unfolding in a perfect timing and that my dreams and desires are happening (even if many of the steps are going on behind the curtains and I can't see all of them!).

Before you leave, listen to my brief inspirational video clip, aired on Fox News TV about this very topic: LETTING GO OF THE HOW! Enjoy and please do contact me if you need some guidance with this. I LOVE helping my coaching clients get out of there own way so that they can live out their dreams!

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip: When you Wake up in a Bad Mood!

Often new coaching clients come to me with the yearning to be more positive but the feeling of frustration that they are "stuck" in a constant negative vibe.

They tell me "I wake up this way and I really try to be positive, but how can I do that when I wake up every morning with those same negative thoughts?"

Listen to one of my latest Fox News TV Inspirational videos on this very topic and as usual, I will revisit and elaborate after you watch this 45-second clip:

You don't get to that place of "being negative all the time" over night, it happens over a period of time where you are practicing the same type of thought pattern over and over again. You get there by continuing to focus on what you don't want, what you are worried about, what doesn't feel good in your current reality. Now, I understand that you don't practice these thoughts "deliberately" - who would want to do that? But you have gotten yourself into a pattern of default negative thinking which has become your point of attraction.

So, the only way to stop this pattern is to:

1) Be aware. Awareness is the first step to changing anything in your life. Think about it. If you are driving a car and you are not aware at all of your surroundings and in a "fog" or daze, what is likely to happen. You must have some form of awareness about you when you are driving so that you can arrive safely to where you want to go. Well, same goes for your life goals and your awareness around your emotions and what you are feeling.

2) Catch those gremlin thoughts in the act! Once you are more aware of the nature of your thoughts and feelings, you can often catch yourself in the act of negative thinking (or what many Law of Attraction people call "gremlin thoughts"). Once you catch yourself, you can make a conscious decision to pivot to a better feeling place. (even if it is ever so slight of an improvement in how you feel -- an improvement is still moving up the vibrational scale and is a good thing!).

3) Stop beating up on yourself! Oh, this is a biggie. Once we start to learn about the Law of Attraction, we can get down on ourselves for "knowing better" and thinking that "we should be more positive". Sometimes, you just have to let yourself feel what you feel and then move on. (Like I mentioned in the previous post where I asked the question "Is Positive Thinking a bunch of Hooey?!") Bottom line, be kinder to you. Allow yourself to feel your emotions. And then start becoming a deliberate creator by reaching for relief, reaching for that better feeling by turning your focus to something else that makes you feel good OR by telling yourself a different story about your life situation.

Some of this Law of Attraction material seems like the same message, and honestly it is. If it could be summed up in two words it would be "FEEL GOOD" or "BE HAPPY" or "LOVE LIFE". And yet, many of us have the equation all backwards. We think that the way we will FEEL GOOD or LOVE LIFE is when our goals and dreams are manifested. But that's not the way it works. That's why I started my Lovin' Life Coaching business in the first place ... to teach people how to be Lovin' Life NOW so that any of their dreams and desires can unfold with ease!

From that happier place (which is ALWAYS found within), that is where we can create miracles in our lives.

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Monday, February 28, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip: Remain Optimistically Delusional!

This is a favorite topic of mine and one I get a kick out of when I read the traditional definition of "delusional". Here's what I found from and


A delusion is a fixed belief that is either false, fanciful, or derived from deception. In psychiatry, it is defined to be a belief that is pathological (the result of an illness or illness process) and is held despite evidence to the contrary. As a pathology, it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information, dogma, stupidity, apperception, illusion, or other effects of perception.

1. a mistaken or misleading opinion, idea, belief, etc: he has delusions of grandeur
2. psychiatry illusion See also hallucination a belief held in the face of evidence to
the contrary, that is resistant to all reason
3. the act of deluding or state of being deluded

Both of these definitions imply that being "delusional" is believing in something that is "false" or "misleading" and "resistant to all reason".

This is where I start to have fun with this. Because "being delusional to our advantage" or as I phrased it in my Blog title as "Optimistically Delusional" is actually a really effective tool to use in order to leverage the Laws of Attraction in our favor.

If you believe something, contrary to any evidence that is in front of you, and if what you believe makes you hopeful, empowered, feel good, then why not believe it? Matter of fact, if you chose to NOT believe it, just because there was no evidence in front of you that said this could happen, you would be hindering your manifestation abilities to unfold your dreams and desires.

Think of inventors. Do they see the proof in front of them when they cook up some crazy invention in their head that is going to change the way the world operates? No. They only believe it can happen in their mind. They are "delusional" to their advantage and as a result of their "delusions of grandeur", inventors create things that have a huge positive impact on society.

When we are experiencing contrast in our lives (e.g., having negative experiences in one or more areas of our life that we wish we could change), it is almost a requirement that we embrace the "optimistically delusional" attitude in order to start turning those areas of our life around to the positive.

In the face of adversity, we need to believe in the positive, despite the negative that is in front of us.

I think we should all tap into our inner inventor and create in our minds to our glory. Cook up "delusional" life scenarios that we desire to live out that make our hearts sing. Believe in those scenarios before an ounce of manifestation occurs. Trust that once we dream up these life scenarios that the HOW will unfold with precision and ease.

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Does Pretending and Imagining Help you to Attract what you Want in Life?

I recently downloaded an app for my iMac which was a casino slot game. Yes, I do occasionally enjoy going to the casino to play the slots, so I thought
"Hey, why not. It may be quite fun!"

I am having the time of my life with it. It is SO fun! I actually feel like I am winning BIG jackpots when I get those bonus rounds and free spins. And I am!
It feels awesome!

So, here's the question, if I am pretending and imagining with this MAC app to be winning jackpots, does that mean I will attract a real JACKPOT win into my life or something even bigger and better -- meaning I will attract more of the VIBE of hitting the jackpot with anything in my life?

Well, my simple answer is YES. And here's why I believe this to be true and when "pretending and imagining" really works: I actually FEEL like a winner when I am playing! My vibe is so high and I am in pure joy. I am smiling, enjoying myself, Lovin' Life (of course I am! ).

So, if you are actually feeling the vibe/emotion that you would feel if what you want was actually happening AND you can feel that in your NOW, then you will definitely attract more life events that will make you feel that fabulous way!

So, anything you "pretend" and "imagine" that feels real in this present moment to you and activates that VORTEX vibe that Abraham-Hicks talks about in their Law of Attraction teachings, is a good thing and will attract more of what you want into your life. Isn't that great news?!

After all, it is all about "feeling good". When you feel good in your now, despite any bumps in the road you are experiencing in your life, that's when you open the door to future positive life experiences. And according to the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, it really doesn't matter what it is you do to get to that "feel good" place as long as whatever you do brings you a feeling of relief and makes you feel better. And ideally, if you can do something that will bring the essence of how you will feel when you do have what you want and activate that feeling right now, you are on your way to attracting your desires and dreams!

Pretending and imagining works when it doesn't feel like you are pretending and it feels REAL to you right here, right now. That's the key to leveraging the power of our imaginations as a tool to attract what we want in life.

The Universe doesn't know whether we are pretending or actually living it as long as the emotions we are feeling when we are pretending are the same type of emotions as we would feel when we are living our dream. How's that for cool?!

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Law of Attraction and Positive Thinking ... a Bunch of Hooey?!

There are many skeptics out there who just don't believe in all this positivity stuff! Maybe you know someone who has said:

"Yeah, right ... I just think I am going to be a millionaire and I will be! Sure. That sounds like a bunch of hooey to me!"

Well, listen in on one of my latest Fox News inspirational videos on this very topic and then I will elaborate further on what it takes (in addition to positive thinking) to deliberately create our life experiences the way we want them to be:

Many of you try to muscle your way into positive thinking, but deep down you still feel the same way (i.e., a negative feeling of doubt, worry, despair, frustration) which is the foundation of the sugar coating you are putting on top with those positive thoughts. If you have a sugar coating on something sour underneath, it's not going to turn out a sweet deal, is it?!

What really needs to be changed is what you are feeling underneath those thoughts. Think about it, if you see someone with a smile on their face, does that actually mean that they are happy on the inside? No. Not necessarily. It could be a fake smile. It could be someone who puts on a show on the outside, but has turmoil underneath. We never really know what someone is feeling on the inside. Only you know how you feel. And that's where it is important to start the shift.

Now, here's where many of my new coaching clients get tripped up with this positive thinking and Law of Attraction. They came to one of their first sessions, are familiar with the Law of Attraction, and think that they can't express anything negative because if they give it attention they are going to attract more of the negative. Now, that is true in the bigger picture, but it is important to recognize and acknowledge what you are feeling ... LET IT OUT. Express your emotions. Because if you suppress those emotions, they are not going to go away and they will always have a negative impact on what you attract into your life. So, in my Fox News video above, that's why I recommend to feel your emotions and then move on from there.

One day I screamed out to the Universe "I don't need fixing! I am perfect just the way I am!" (which was in response to some teleclass I attended that brought up some thoughts about myself that were not aligned with joy!) And boy, did that feel good. It was like letting out a great big "AHHHHHHH"! And the release and relief I felt just from letting that out felt incredible!

And from that place of relief, we can move forward and attract more of what we want into our lives.

The Law of Attraction states that "like attracts like" whether you are focusing on the negative or the positive. And where our attraction power really lies is in THE WAY WE FEEL underneath all those words we use and the thoughts we have. It's our feelings that are the magnets for our life experiences.

So, is positive thinking a bunch of hooey? Not if you are feeling positive underneath! And if you are feeling negative emotions, you need to first be aware of them and then reach for that feeling of relief (which can be achieved in a variety of ways, including REALLY feeling those emotions and letting them out) and once you consciously make that decision to feel slightly better on a regular basis, your life experiences will begin to be more positive ones and you are well on your way to achieving your desires and dreams.

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Friday, February 25, 2011

A Law of Attraction Lesson: TRUST More!

Sometimes when I need some guidance I just get quiet within myself and ask my higher self a question about the situation in my life that I want to change.

I often get this answer:


Now, it sounds so simple, and I must admit that the first time I got this answer, I said something to the effect of "OK ... but what else can I do?" HA! Sometimes we are so funny. Because we don't realize that our inner guidance is the most powerful tool we have and that the answers do NOT have to be complicated at all. Matter of fact, they can be quite simple.

"Relax, Trust & Let Go" is the most brilliant guidance ANYONE can get. Why? Because when we are so attached to an outcome and we are trying to "make something happen" and get frustrated because it is not happening in our lives, we are rooted in lack and distrust. And from a Law of Attraction perspective our focus is on the fact that it is NOT happening and you know what that means -- we will keep on attracting that "not happening" vibe into our life experience!

We try way too hard. Life is supposed to be fun and attracting our dreams and desires shouldn't be so difficult, unless we make it that way! Many of us believe that achieving our goals has to be "hard" or "difficult". But the only reason why we experience that it is hard, is because we believe it has to be. It's the belief that creates our reality.

My inner guidance was trying to tell me that I need to TRUST MORE that the positive outcome and the desires I have are on their way and that the ONLY thing I need to do is to chill about it all and BELIEVE that "All is Well".

My inner guidance also told me that anytime I felt "off" or started to have those gremlin thoughts or doubts that I should put my hand over my heart and affirm "ALL IS WELL" and that's what I do now and it connects me with a peaceful feeling and a knowing that ALL truly is well! Try it. It may work for you as well.

To your health & happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Law of Attraction Tip: When you find yourself dwelling on the past!

As you know, the Law of Attraction is always in action. What you think and feel creates your current reality. So, if you are thinking about the past and feeling bad about it, not only are you making your past the part of your now, but you are also bringing a "lack" or "negative" feeling into your now, which is not going to have a positive impact on your future life experiences.

Today, I was walking through Costco and I found myself thinking about something I manifested in the past and I realized that when I thought about that it didn't make me feel happy or joyous at all. So, being someone who is quite aware of my emotions and how I am feeling in the moment, I right away stopped myself in the act of that "lackful" thought and told myself the following very simple phrase that really helped me to pivot to a better feeling place:

It's a new day!

And as soon as I said this, it activated a feeling within me that said "hey, it's a new day and things can turn on a dime! What happened in the past has nothing to do with the now, unless you make it so!"

WOW ... that felt good!!! And it is a "new day", a "new moment", a new "choice" that we can make to think something different and believe in the positive possibilities of the future.

What we think in the now is where our power resides.

Yes, we are that powerful and only we can change the course of our lives by the thoughts we think and the feelings we feel. It can be that simple if we make it that way.

So, when you find yourself dwelling on the past, just remember this simple phrase:

"It's a new day!"

And remind yourself that "that was then, and this is now" and the two have nothing to do with each other unless we "glue" them together!!!

To your health & happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Law of Attraction Tip: When You Feel like you Missed the Boat on that Opportunity!

I am sure you have felt this way where you really wanted to attract something in your life, possibly a new job or meet that ideal mate, and you feel like you missed the boat on that opportunity. Maybe you missed a call or someone contacted that person prior to you and now that other person is "hooked up" with someone else.

You know the feeling. It's one where you feel like "oh crap, I didn't get there on time!" or "I didn't take action quick enough!"

Listen to my Fox News video clip below on this very topic and then we will come back to elaborate further on what you should do during times when you feel this way:

If you come from that place of "there are an infinite number of paths that I can achieve my goals", then you don't put so much weight on that one opportunity that you feel like you missed. Because there are so many more opportunities on their way to you, if you allow them to come by believing in the abundance of them.

Our dreams can unfold in so many different ways. We don't have to figure it all out. We just have to believe in our dreams and know that they are a given. Then, if we just take inspired action steps, all the rest of the steps will unfold naturally and organically so that it doesn't have to feel so "hard" to live our dreams.

And the biggest lesson here is to flip the story you tell yourself to one that feels good. If you tell the story of "I missed that boat" and then choose to embrace that your desire is not going to come to you because you didn't do something you "should have" done, that feels like crap! And feeling bad is DEFINITELY not going to bring you what you want in life.

Believe in those infinite number of paths and next time you catch yourself say "I missed that boat", tell yourself "that's OK, cause another one is coming!"

To your health & happiness,
~ Coach Maria

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Life Coach Maria Lesetz says ... Worrying brings you Diddly Squat!!!

OK ... so we all have worried about something in our lives (at some point in time), right?

But has worrying ever helped you in any way shape or form???

Listen to one of my latest Fox News Happiness Tips on Worrying:

Yes, you have a choice on whether to worry or not. You may not feel that way right now. You may be thinking that "it's in your blood" (I have heard that one often from people I know and clients), but it really is not in your blood - you know that!!!

You are choosing to worry. You can make a choice to respond differently to every single life experience you are living right now.

My logical, practical mind says "if worrying brings me absolutely no good and it can only make me feel worse and bring more of the same to me, then why the heck should I worry?"

Think about that one for a while. ANd next time you find yourself worrying about some area of your life, do the following:

1) Catch yourself in the act of worrying. Awareness is the first step to positive change.

2) Ask yourself ... "Is worrying about this going to bring me what I want?"

3) When the answer is "NO" to #2 (which it always will be), then make a conscious choice to reach for a better feeling.

4) How do you reach for a better feeling? There are so many ways.

=> Remind yourself that you can.
=> Shift your focus to something else in your life that puts a smile on your face
=> Meditate
=> Breathe in, Breathe Out (really, this one works like a charm if you really take nice long deep breaths)
=> Focus on what you do want and they way you want it to be.
=> Find the evidence that the way you want it to be can happen (even if it is in someone else's life) -- find the proof positive.

And the list goes on and on and on. I share with my coaching clients so many different ways that they can pivot in that moment of worry and each one takes the path that resonates the most with them.

So ... bottom line and some food for thought:

WORRY ... Why Bother???

To your Health & Happiness,
~ Maria Lesetz, Law of Attraction Happiness Coach