Is it worth having the REGRET of not being happy?

Recently one of my Facebook connections shared this link where a palliative nurse recorded the top five regrets of the dying. When I read it, it made me realize that this is why I do what I do! This is why I am a Happiness Coach & a Motivational Speaker.  I want to have a profound positive impact on the quality of people's lives while they are still on this earth so that they have no regrets (or at least few regrets) when that time comes.   My motto ... live with no regrets!  Just learn from the events in your life that didn't quite go as planned and make better decisions in the present moment, so that your future is impacted in a positive way!

Regrets don't feel good, so from a Law of Attraction standpoint, that's not a good thing.  If it doesn't feel good and you continue to feel it, you will continue to attract more things into your life that will not feel good! Makes sense, right?

Many people tell me that they work so hard with little to no rewards or that they are living their life based on what others expect them to do or be, but not what their heart and soul is telling them to do.

I also have people tell me that they are not truly expressing their feelings - that they are "holding back" what they really feel?

Do any of these things sound like YOU?

Please take a moment right now to decide, really decide, that your happiness is the most important thing - that being happy and following your heart's desires will positively impact every single area of your life.  And best part, if you decide this right now, you are paving the way for a more joyous future, one in which you won't have regrets, you will just feel blessed that you are living the life your heart and soul wants you to.

And if you already have regrets, you must make a choice right now to leave those things in the past. Don't keep on bringing the past into your NOW and making it relevant.  Ok, you feel like you have made some mistakes.  So what?  Have you learned from them?  Are you using what you learned to make a better future?  That's the most important thing.  That's the only thing that should be the takeaway from past mistakes.  And here's a re-frame that I am sure you have already heard:  It's not a mistake, it's a lesson.  And you can leverage that lesson to your advantage for your future!

The key to living a life filled with joy instead of regrets is to live in the present moment and appreciate every morsel of your life that is a blessing.  You know which aspects of your life this entails ... the ones that put a smile on your face each and every day.  There are blessings and positive aspects of our lives that we often neglect to give attention to.  Why?  Because we are too focused on what is NOT working in our lives.  We are too focused on what we lack, what we don't have yet.  But that is not going to make you happy.  It's just going to keep you feeling stuck.  Is that what you want?

If you feel you are working too hard, re-evaluate your situation.  Start including some "me time".
And don't tell me that you can't do that.  You can.  You are just choosing to tell yourself a story that you can't do it.  But, what's more important - the quality of your life and how happy you are in any given moment OR how much you work and work really hard?  What's going to matter on that last day you are here on this earth?

If you are living your life for someone else, doing things that they want to do, but not living life for you .. how's that working for you?  Do you feel an ache in your heart, like something important is missing? Of course you do.  You are here to live YOUR life and follow your bliss, enjoying the journey of life.  You will never be happy if you don't live a life that is true to your own heart's desires.

Allow yourself to be happy.  Choose what's right for you and what brings you joy!  If you are afraid to take that first step, contact me.  That's what I am here to do ... to help people like yourself BE HAPPY NOW and pave the way for a better future, one that is aligned with what lights you up and makes this life more enjoyable, enriching and fulfilling!!!

~ Maria Lesetz,  Law of Attraction Happiness Coach

Throwing a Pitty Party!

Yesterday I had an "off" day. Yes, even a Happiness Coach has some "off" moments ... I am human! ;-) Sometimes you just have to let yourself feel what you feel. I know that is SO profound, but it is such a helpful tip for being able to move on from that emotional crap that we sometimes get stuck in!!!

So, yesterday's mood got me thinking. You see I was doing what many of you do ... I was beating up on myself yesterday about some decisions I had made in the past. Now, I know better, but I just had to LET IT OUT, get it off my chest, cry, get angry! I know ... shocker, huh? You may not find too many happiness coaches admitting that they have those feelings. But, we do. The only difference between the way I may process those type of feelings and you may process them, is that I am so hyper-aware of what I am feeling and I also know that what I feel impacts what comes next, that I make sure I do everything in my power to shift the feeling into a better feeling place!

And yesterday I came up with a new approach. I was driving in the car with my honey and here's what came out of my mouth =>

"Maybe we should throw a pitty party, buy balloons, beat up on ourselves all day and then make a pact with each other that after we do that for one day, we are done! No more beating up on ourselves. No more feeling stuck. Decide that "THAT'S IT!"

Now, we didn't throw the party yet, but it did make me chuckle and I even found some relief in just the thought of throwing that party. First of all, I absolutely know that I could not beat up on myself for an entire day .... it probably wouldn't last 1 hour (if that). Second of all, I know that when I beat up on myself, it only makes me feel worse, it doesn't solve a thing and it keeps me from taking inspired action steps that will move me towards the direction of my dreams! So, why the heck do it?

So ... what would your pitty party look like? Who would you invite to join in your misery? How would you decorate? What food would you serve? I know at my party there would be a lot of chocolate and purple and red balloons! :) :) :)

Just even thinking about that party right now, makes me smile because it is so ridiculous! And as you know from the Law of Attraction, any feeling of relief is a good one! So, feeling relief from just the thought of throwing a pitty party is exactly what I needed yesterday to keep me moving forward and living a life filled with joy instead of regrets.

"Regrets are just another way we beat up on ourselves
and stop our dreams from unfolding."
~ Maria Lesetz